Recent Articles by Dr. Joe

Empathy: The Art of Listening
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Empathy: The Art of Listening

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How many times has this happened to you? You come home and can see that your partner is stressed out and unhappy.

You ask what’s wrong and s/he tells you about something crappy going on at work or with friends.

Most Relationships Die From 1000 Paper Cuts
by dj2016 |

Most Relationships Die From 1000 Paper Cuts

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My 25 plus years as a couples counselor have taught me that its usually not the big fights that cause relationships to struggle or fail. Instead, it’s the small wounds caused by how each of your respond to one another’s bids for connection that predict whether your relationship with

7 Questions to Revive Your Relationship
by dj2016 |

7 Questions to Revive Your Relationship

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Many of you have heard me say that the longer you know your partner, the less you may really know him or her.  This is because of our tendency to interpret what our partner says based on our world view

Why Conflicts Go Unresolved
by dj2016 |

Why Conflicts Go Unresolved

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The Harvard Negotiation Project spent years studying hundreds of conversations in great detail. They discovered that there is an underlying structure to every conversation. It turns out that no matter what the subject is, each conversation has three levels to it:

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