In helping hundreds of clients overcome their anger management problem I’ve learned that stuffing anger or pretending problems don’t exist are dead end approaches. You can’t go through life without injustices occurring and feeling angered about it. To help my many clients I developed a systematic program that can teach you to deal with anger in different ways; ways that will leave you feeling empowered and in control.

This program is unique in that it approaches anger from 4 different angles, what I call

“The Four Horsemen of Anger”

1. Biology. Because your emotional brain has a jump start on your thinking brain you’ll learn various strategies to keep take a layer or two of stress off throughout the day (making you less reactive) and to calm down when triggered.

2. Triggers. Why is it that something can be very upsetting to one person but not to another? Often your response is related to your history. Through experience, each of us has learned to perceive certain situations as threatening or triggering. Since we have all had different experiences we each see different things as upsetting.

You’ll explore what your triggers are, what the underlying (i.e. primary emotions) are and use these to have a better understanding of specifically how to react differently.

3. Shortcuts. Did you know that much of the time we use mental shortcuts to figure out what is going on around us? Usually, these shortcuts are an efficient way to deal with life. Your conscious brain is only able to process 55 bits of info a second (whereas your unconscious brain is processing 11,000,000 bits per second) so if you really thought in depth about everything going on around you your brain would quickly become overwhelmed.

The problem with mental shortcuts in anger issues is that they lead you to either misperceive a situation or they give you tunnel vision and limit your ability to think through all your options.

I’ll show how to become aware of what your mental shortcuts are and how you use them to prime or fuel your anger, how to tune into them in everyday life, and how to change the way you are thinking about a situation before you end up in trouble.

4. Behavior. Insight and self-management skills are important, but they are only half the battle. The final piece of the puzzle is dealing with other people.

You’ll learn how to you talk to a difficult person in a non-confrontational way, How to you ask someone to change an annoying behavior without provoking a fight, how do you gracefully exit a tense situation and how to offer and respond to criticism.