Recent Articles by Dr. Joe

Empathy: The Art of Listening
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Empathy: The Art of Listening

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How many times has this happened to you? You come home and can see that your partner is stressed out and unhappy.

You ask what’s wrong and s/he tells you about something crappy going on at work or with friends.

Most Relationships Die From 1000 Paper Cuts
by dj2016 |

Most Relationships Die From 1000 Paper Cuts

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My 25 plus years as a couples counselor have taught me that its usually not the big fights that cause relationships to struggle or fail. Instead, it’s the small wounds caused by how each of your respond to one another’s bids for connection that predict whether your relationship with

7 Questions to Revive Your Relationship
by dj2016 |

7 Questions to Revive Your Relationship

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Many of you have heard me say that the longer you know your partner, the less you may really know him or her.  This is because of our tendency to interpret what our partner says based on our world view

Why Conflicts Go Unresolved
by dj2016 |

Why Conflicts Go Unresolved

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The Harvard Negotiation Project spent years studying hundreds of conversations in great detail. They discovered that there is an underlying structure to every conversation. It turns out that no matter what the subject is, each conversation has three levels to it:

What’s Your Anger Personality?
by dj2016 |

What’s Your Anger Personality?

What’s Your Anger Personality?

An important first step in getting a handle on your anger is understanding what style you express it in. Below are 6 of the most common personality types I have seen in my practice. Which type comes closest to describing you?

The Anger Management Dirty Dozen
by dj2016 |

The Anger Management Dirty Dozen

Answering “yes” to any of the following questions may be a sign of a anger management problem. The more you answer “yes” the more likely it is that you have an anger management problem. Answering yes to five or more of these questions suggests that an anger management class may be helpful.

7 Potential Warning Signs of Infidelity
by dj2016 |

7 Potential Warning Signs of Infidelity

There are no sure warning signs of infidelity. All the warning signs listed below may be due to any number of reasons.
However, they do provide some useful clues if you are feeling suspicious

The 6 Types of Affairs
by dj2016 |

The 6 Types of Affairs

There are as many types of affairs as there are couples who are involved in them. While each is unique and needs to be treated as such there are some broad similarities across many affairs. Here are some brief descriptions of the types of affairs I’ve seen over the years.

What Not to Do When an Affair is Discovered
by dj2016 |

What Not to Do When an Affair is Discovered

1) Bury your head in the sand and act as if nothing has happened.  The problem with this approach is that you never deal

Dr. Joe’s Affair Recovery System
by dj2016 |

Dr. Joe’s Affair Recovery System

Research has shown that your chances of not only surviving an affair, but using it as a catalyst to a better relationship are 60% greater if you talk about it at the right time and in the right way.

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