Most of the time, you’re the steady one at work. You get things done, you hold people to a high standard, and you care a great deal about the quality of what goes out the door. But lately something’s shifted. You snapped at someone in a meeting. You sent an

They’re the people you love most, and somehow they’re the ones who get the worst of you. You can keep it together all day at work, patient with clients, calm in meetings, and then you walk in the door and something small sets you off. Afterward, there’s the quiet. The

You can feel it coming. Your face gets hot, your jaw tightens, your voice starts to rise, and some part of you knows exactly where this is heading. You don’t want to say the thing you’ll regret. You just don’t know how to stop the train once it’s already moving.

Maybe it was the look on someone’s face after you raised your voice. Maybe it was the door you slammed a little harder than you meant to, or the thing you said in the heat of the moment that you’ve been replaying ever since. Afterward, there’s usually a sinking feeling,

If you’ve ever lost it over something small — snapped at someone who didn’t deserve it, said something you immediately regretted, or felt a wave of rage that seemed completely out of proportion to what triggered it — you’ve probably asked yourself some version of this question. Why do I